Today I am going to a spiritual direction appointment. This is a time for me to reflect on the past month, a time for centering. I’ve come to love this precious time and am glad that spiritual direction has become a rhythm in my life the last 1 1/2 years. This practice helps me to be aware of my own life, to notice spiritual themes, and pay attention to invitations I may be receiving. Through spiritual direction, I know myself better.
I have kept going to yoga four times per week. My body is getting stronger. I’m getting more flexible, day by day. I’m learning to be more mindful. And listening to my breath. My mind is more clear. I am more aware of where I can push myself, and where I must limit myself.
Over the past year, I’ve tried to take seriously what it means to rest. My body is learning to adjust to how much I need to rest on the weekend, after adding in more work hours during the week. Weekends are a time for sleeping in, for cooking, for yoga, for writing, for time with friends. Weekends are a time for play and rejuvenation and not for work.
For me, these must be the foundation for non-violence. If I live a greater percentage of my life from a centered place, I am observant, yet not reactive. I may have the courage to name an injustice I see, yet I may see more clearly how I should respond, from a place of knowing myself. From this calm, self-aware place, I am more willing to embrace another, than build up artificial barriers.
If I choose busyness and running myself ragged, I am choosing to be violent towards myself, and that, no doubt, will be violent towards others as well, whether it surfaces in the form of ignoring, of poor listening, of constant talking, of fighting or simply not expressing that another has value. If I choose busyness and constant distraction, I am not choosing time for hospitality, for paying attention to nature, for tending to my own health. I am not choosing what is best. I am not choosing to listen to my life of the lives of others.
Yet, these personal practices, should not just be limited to myself. These practices actually lead to an outward focus, with increasing desires for justice and peace in this world. These practices allow me to see suffering (rather than ignore it), and lament. These allow me to listen, without my own agenda getting in the way.
Martin Luther King Jr’s first two principles of non-violence were:
- Non-violence is a way of life for courageous people.
- Non-violence seeks to win friendship and understanding.
These words were timely then, and most needed now.
May you walk through your day with ease, even while being observant to injustice that lurks in power-hungry institutions and lonely corners.
What are some non-violent practices in your own life?
How do these help you know yourself more deeply?