I feel really grounded after my vacation. I’ve also been taking these past few days really slow, even though I had a lot of tasks to get done to prep for starting the tutoring semester next week.
It’s been slowly adjusting back home: to meditation & qigong when I wake up, making my own food, to taking walks, to rearranging the altar in my room. It’s been calling the doctor, replacing a headlight, making copies. In a few days it will be back to lesson planning. I also know that with the new moon and partial solar eclipse coming up on Saturday, my body is just tired. I’m letting myself move more slowly.
My intention for this New Moon & in starting the school year in general is to live with these two questions: What is mine to do? What is NOT mine to do?
It is in my nature to see things that need to be “fixed.” Used with discernment and wisdom, this is a very healthy trait that allows anger to surface and to channel that anger constructively towards change. Used without wisdom, this way of thinking is lethal. It makes being and presence impossible, and completely sabotages the present moment with judging thoughts of what could be “better.”
I’m entering a year where my health is allowing me to do so much more, and I’m deeply grateful. And it’s a year where I will have less free time, and in my downtime I will need to rest.
While I’m doing really well health-wise, this and this was still a year ago. My body is still rebounding, day by day. Knowing my body really well, also means scheduling enough rest. Letting my body recharge for the healing work I do every day, and thanking my body for the ability to do it.
Even with all this self-awareness, sometimes I still think I can and should do more. Sometimes that’s true. Most of the time it’s not!
With the way my brain works, sometimes it’s just more helpful to ask, “What’s not mine to do?”, list a few things, and move on. That usually settles down my over-thinking mind.
What I do long for as this school year starts up is more presence. A heightened awareness of the unique conversations that can happen when two people gather and the courage to have those conversations.
A deep centering in my purpose for this moment, taking a deep breath and letting it all go.
At the worst of my illness, about 3.5 years ago, I spent a lot of time lying in bed. Not only was I experiencing physical pain and deep fatigue, but I was learning to interrogate the thoughts and I emotions I had when I was no longer productive.
I came to also know that this culture of non-stop performance and the need to always be busy was also making me sick.
I didn’t know how to be alone and worthy of love. I wasn’t “doing” anything except learning how to love and care for myself. What I didn’t know was that this felt like the hardest job of all.
Those days of learning to prepare healing food, of walks, gentle yoga, and short times of meditation set the foundation of where I’m at today. These simple ways of care come much more naturally to me now.
I am worth all the love, care, and nurture, no matter how I’m feeling.
So what is mine to do? It is to show up to the present moment, and accept the unknown and the adventure that presents itself. Yes, of course, there are a ton of responsibilities that I carry, but the most important is to show up when my intuition says “yes” whether out of excitement or even nervousness, and to rest when my body says “no.”
Ever so simple, and ever so elusive at times, when I cease to pay attention. And what I must come back to, again and again.